RINGING the Bells....
Tales of a dreamy young professional...well more of the emotional backlash!
Sunday, December 12, 2010
Sunday, June 13, 2010
Sunday, March 7, 2010
Ms. Alicia Bell
It's always hard to say goodbye to those we love...and today is no different. I couldn't even imagine your life ending so soon and with so much pain. I prayed daily for a different outcome, thinking that you would be the exception, the miracle!!!! But alas that wasn't in God's plan.
As I sit here pondering how much I should've done in your last days here on earth, I'm sadden by my narcissism. But when I really think about it, I wanted to call, I just didn't know what to say....how to act or what to talk about. Though none of that should have mattered, my emotional immaturity got in the way. AND I'M SORRY!!!
Ms. Alicia you will truly be missed, and your accomplishments here on earth will surely bring lasting happiness to those around you.
LOVE,
J
Thursday, February 4, 2010
A theory on happiness
Here I am settling into St. Louis life, finally working (in a upwardly mobile fashion), got the boo situation on deck, headed back to my fighting weight and I've found a couple people to hang with occasionally. One would think that everything is moving along great for me, right? Well....I've been chewing on this little theory for the last couple of years that has me thinking differently.
Question: Does happiness work on a balance system? Are we only allotted a certain amount of happiness at time? I'll give you a little background, every moment prior to this one I've been missing one, two, or three of the things I listed above (not that this is an all inclusive list, but of course these are key to a 26 year old WOMAN). Leaving me to assume, every aspect of your life CANNOT equate to happiness, simultaneously....
Think about it...we are always complaining about something, even if everything else in our life is great! And complaining definitely = unhappiness! For the longest, I would constantly complain about starting a career, even though I had a man (turned out to be a loser), in great shape and not a debt to my name...when a career had no choice but to come.
Then, finally after YEARS of self diagnosing I thought I'd found the secret! I broke out of my mold and took a risk (Moving to St. Louis). And for the last three months I'd reached a simultaneous state of happiness, debunking my little theory...but apparently I missed the elephant! And now it seems I've tilted the balance of happiness. It would be my luck that the one thing falling off the scale, is one thing I would've chose over everything.
Even though my study has a small sample size....I'm concluding it a FACT!
Peace
Friday, October 2, 2009
The joys of being carefree in a imperfect world.
Friday, August 7, 2009
EGO...
So I'm not all that great with posting everyday...despite the fact that I don't have anything to do but study for the next week. I think it's a lack of commitment that I have issues with...I'm working on it though.
Anyway, I've been rereading Eckhart Tolle's, A new earth. I was sure that during the first read the content didn't really sink in nor stick, plus I have tons of free time (being in-between jobs and visiting a state where I only know one person)...so I picked it up again. After progressing through the first three chapters I realize this book has taken on a new context though the content remained the same. I'm attributing this contextual transition to my ever changing mental schema. At the moment it's laced with fragmented thoughts of attachment and happiness. Both of which the book addresses...
So I sat back and identified all the things that my Ego attaches itself to, this is the list that I've come up with...my beloved city (Atlanta), my family (I love them so), any designer in my closet, being a nurturer, and a seemingly attractive lady. Now in the book he's doesn't state that all egoic attachment as negative... only if you use it to make yourself "right" and the other "wrong", or you somehow become better than someone else because of an attachment that you have gained. Looking back over my list I realize that I don't apply the attachment negatively upon anyone else...although I apply them negatively upon myself (in the light of holding back my growth and success). Well maybe the "designers" and the whole" attractive thing"...I absolutely love looking good and I wouldn't be a women if I didn't make surface comparisons between myself and other women!
I'm at the point in my job search that I beginning to feel the effects of
To thicken the plot....this move can be seen as an attempt to follow a man! When in all actuality I applied across the country (minus the west coast, that's a little too far). I've already experienced the temporary nature of relationships...so I'm positive that this is neither primary nor secondary motive for me applying. And of course that's how it will be viewed...and here comes the ego! I don't even want to be seen in the light, I'm not that girl... I'm the independent, head strong, resourceful one... Well, that's what I'm trying to believe. But I'm I the girl that would let my ego detour me from a great opportunity? (now that's something to think about...)
With all that said...I'm still going to the interview and if offered I'll still take the job. Though uncertainty and ego rage high...so does the unhappiness that comes from unemployment!